Within twenty-four hours, the same person can attack, complain, and rush to the rescue without ever noticing.
These spirals follow a logic, and there’s good news: you can spot them. This module trains your eye to see them coming, around you and in your own reflexes: the phrases that give each stance away, the secret reward that pulls us back, and the new speed that messaging apps give them. Once the mechanism is visible, it already loses part of its power.
~20 min at your own paceKey skill: Handling Difficult RelationshipsAvailable in FR + ENNo prerequisites
What you’ll take away
- a precise portrait of each role, from its favorite words (“always,” “never”) to its silences
- the step-by-step story of an ordinary team where people swap the three roles
- a self-observation grid to find the role you slip into most readily
Who it’s for
Anyone who wants to decode the tensions that keep coming back at work, including their own role in them.
Learning objectives
- Recognize the three roles by their signs: the victim’s complaints, the persecutor’s judgment, and the rescuer’s unsolicited help.
- Understand the hidden payoff that draws people into each role: to matter, to be right, to feel useful or loved.
- Follow the circle of roles (the exhausted rescuer becomes a victim, the irritated victim a persecutor) to spot it in time.
- Stay especially alert in writing, where tone gets harsher and speeds up psychological games, and name the game to stop being its pawn.
How does this module work?
The steps of the Adaptive module.
- Self-assessmentOn nine dimensions, to gauge current habits and guide the practice.
- Expert videoA ~10 min video with three pauses for reflection.
- Practice scenariosThe first two scenarios chosen from the self-assessment, then sixteen more, optional. Every answer gets feedback: what it leads to, and one way to improve.
- Dated commitmentOne action to try, written by the learner or chosen from the suggestions.
- Memo to downloadKey takeaways, questions, commitment, personal notes, and checklists.
Duration: ~20 min. Excluding bonus practice scenarios and optional in-depth content.
